ARE YOU STILL A VIRGIN IN 2021?

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Realizing that you are a virgin is different than maintaining your virginity. The reason behind it is that the kind of pressure most young girls go through for not having sex is appalling. Maintaining your virginity in this century as a woman makes you different in the eyes of the public. Most at times, you are tagged with all sort of names and it gradually destroys the self confidence of a woman.

 

Some girls who have lost their virginity have regretted since they felt it was not the right time for them to have sex or otherwise they felt influenced by their peers to give it a try. Others, it was against their will and to some life gave them a different alternative as they were faced by their perpetrators.

 

Virginity happens to be one of the subjects that are rarely discussed among young women. Since everyone presume to have had sexual intercourse, it won’t be necessary to bring that subject up but to those who have not had sexual intercourse, often feel it’s a shame for such subjects to be discussed especially when their peers get to find out that they are still virgins. Often, women who maintain their virginity become laughing stock within the society since they find it weird for a grown woman not to have sex.

 

Even though, in some parts of the world, certain cultural practices encourage women to maintain their virginity. When a woman keeps her virginity for that long before marriage, she is highly deemed with prestige within her own society and the younger ones always look up to her for advice.

 

Currently, we live in a world where young girls are having sex since they want to live up to expectation among their friends. In an article reviewed by D’Arcy Lyness on October 18 on kids health.org it was stated that “some teens feel that they have to lose their virginity to keep up with their friends and to be accepted.” Based on this statement, it is very clear that some young girls are been influenced by their peers to lose their virginity since they don’t want to be the odd one in their discussion.

 

This clearly indicates that, society has not played its role well for young girls to openly discuss about issues affecting them in terms of keeping their virginity or losing it. Nathan Cirian also wrote that “Society has played an enormous part in the perception of virginity that is when a man is seen openly discussing about virginity he is mocked for being sexually inactive and women on the other hand are also mocked for being sexually active.”

 

Nevertheless, this has always become a controversial subject for both the young and older women. If you are young and sexually active, society looks at you as a whore, if you are old and still a virgin, then you are termed as old fashion.

 

What exactly is expected from society and what are the measures put in place for young and older women to openly discuss about the issues of virginity and sex.

 

Young girls should have an open discussion and not feel inferior when they disclose to their peers that they are still virgins. It should not be termed as old fashion since it is their choice to keep or lose it and absolutely no one should feel pressured to do things against their will. The same applies to older women who are not married yet and have maintained their virginity. Society should not be pointing fingers at them for been inexperienced but they should be rewarded and have an open discussion with younger girls who always feel pressured by their peers to live up to expectation.

Whichever way it is, no woman should be mocked to the detriment of her personality irrespective of her age. Every woman has a rule in regards to being a virgin before marriage or become sexually active before marriage. Your life should not be lived by others and neither should you live for others. Don’t struggle to be perfect by pleasing society to receive appraisals.

 

Society should encourage open conversation and be willing to support young girls to motivate them to take the necessary steps in regards to keeping their virginity or losing it. If such measures are being taken, women will live a comfortable life without fear and judgment.

 

If you have kept your virginity long enough for the right person, then it’s a beautiful thing to behold, if you have lost it along the way, that too it’s okay. Live your life to your expectations and live it to the fullest.

 

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